This blog tackles the uncomfortable and complicated ways women are oppressed, no matter how small, subtle, or difficult to describe. Together, we will identify, expose and untangle the experiences that we all face as women, but may not know how to put into words.
Because our stories matter. Every single one of them.
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“Well, my experience wasn’t as bad as yours, so…” and the well-meaning survivor trails off into silence. The times I have had this conversation, had to stop myself from saying it, or heard variation of this sentence has increased tenfold since the explosion of the #MeToo movement. And the problem is, this is just an externalization of a battle we’re all probably fighting on the inside as well. I’m here to tell us all that we need to stop, why, and what you can do about it.
As we watched our Facebook feeds fill with #MeToo from acquaintances, friends, and family members, I knew that something was changing, and you probably did too. We were raising our hands collectively. We were being seen as a group all at once. We were being heard. But what I also hoped for and believe is that we were prepping those around us for deeper and more difficult conversations about domestic violence, harassment, and sexual assault to create systemic changes.
Recently Buzzfeed shared an article titled, “New York Just Passed A Bill Banning Cops From Having Sex With People In Custody” about a horrible case where a woman in handcuffs was raped by two officers who were detaining her. First, there are 35 states that allow for a loophole where officers who rape someone in custody are not actually charged with rape or sexual assault if they claim the rape was “consensual.”